About Him...

he's a warm guy who loves cycling, reading, writing and most of all, poking fun at life together with his friends. honest discussions on life, love and why are memories that he treasure; when he needs to relax, he bikes along the east coast since he has a soft spot for the surf, sand and setting sun. what he enjoys most is the satisfying knowledge that he can relax after having done his best in a full day's worth of work :)

A Quote to Live By

"It is not what we eat but what we digest that makes us strong; not what we gain but what we save that makes us rich; not what we read but what we remember that makes us learned; and not what we profess but what we practice that gives us integrity."
- Francis Bacon

"I" and "Love" and "You"

"The words "I" and "Love" and "You" are the watermark of humanity. Strung together, they convey our deepest sense of humility, of power, of truth. It is our most common sentiment, even as the feeling of it is so infinitely uncommon: each to proclaim these three words with his or her very own heart and mindset of reason (or lack thereof); a proclamation completely and perfectly new each time it is offered.

Uttered daily and nightly by millions, the words are said in an unending array of circumstances : whispered to a newborn in a mothers arms; shared between best friends on the playground; in the form of sympathy - said by a girl to a boy, as the respect continues but the relationship does not. It is said too loudly by parents to embarrassed children in the company of their friends, and by grown children - to their fading parents in hospital beds. The words are thought in the company of the photograph and said in the company of the gravestone. It is how we end our phone calls and our letters... the words at the bottom of the page that trump all those above it, a way to gracefully finish a message, however important or trivial, with the most meaningful gift of all : the communication of love.

And yet the words themselves have been the victims of triviality, a ready replacement for lesser salutations among near strangers, burst forth casually as "love ya." Truly? To what degree? Why, how much, and for how long? These are questions befitting of the stature of love, though not the everyday banter of vague acquaintance. The words have also been twisted by the dark nature of deceit : To say "I love you" with a dramatic measure of synthetic emotion; a snare set by those who prey upon fellow humanity, driven to whatever selfish end, to gain access to another's body, or their money, or their opportunity. In this realm, the proclamation is disgraced by one seeking to gain rather than to give.

In any case, and by whatever inspiration, these words are woven deeply in to the fibers of our existence. Our longing to hear them from the right place is maddeningly and simultaneously our finest strength and our most gentle weakness.

The album "I and Love and You" is unashamedly defined by such a dynamic of duality. As living people, we are bound by this unavoidable parallel. We are powerful yet weak, capable yet temporary. Inevitably, an attempt to place honesty within an artistic avenue will follow suit. This is a piece which shows us as we are : products of love surrounded by struggle.

The music herein is, in many ways, readable as both a milestone and an arrival. A chapter in the story of young men, it bridges the space between the uncertainty of youth and the reality of it's release. The record is full with the quality of the question and response. As far as questions go, there are plenty-normally residing within the tone and delivery of the lyrics themselves, which, ironically, are sung with so much confidence.

Among songs and thoughts so driven and purposeful, the most basic relate-able doubt comes through with a resounding clarity. Outside of the eternal theme of romantic love, the album speaks thankfully upon a landscape of light-filled rooms, word-filled pages, time machines, forgiveness, singing birds, ocean waves, art ,change, confessions of shortcomings, and reasons to continue on. Hope and a cause for smiling follow naturally.

In the midst of all this, there are allusions to the less-than-ideal conditions of life : the loss of memory, the inability to control temper, insecurity, indecision, jaded indifference, and the general plague of former and current weakness. "I and Love and You" is an album of obvious human creation, characterized by it's best and it's worst. Emotional imperfection is a reality for those who recorded the piece, just as it is for those who will hear it. The conclusion of the song from which the title is taken admits that the words "I love you" have become "hard to say".

And perhaps that difficulty is as common as it's counterpart. Perhaps the inability to say these heaviest of words is as much a part of life as the lighthearted candor of those who say them without any difficulty at all. And so it ends with the phrase whispered to and by those of us most defeated and most elated... I and love and you..."

- The Avett Brothers

a poem

Failing and Flying
by Jack Gilbert

Everyone forgets that Icarus also flew.
It's the same when love comes to an end,
or the marriage fails and people say
they knew it was a mistake, that everybody
said it would never work. That she was
old enough to know better. But anything
worth doing is worth doing badly.
Like being there by that summer ocean
on the other side of the island while
love was fading out of her, the stars
burning so extravagantly those nights that
anyone could tell you they would never last.
Every morning she was asleep in my bed
like a visitation, the gentleness in her
like antelope standing in the dawn mist.
Each afternoon I watched her coming back
through the hot stony field after swimming,
the sea light behind her and the huge sky
on the other side of that. Listened to her
while we ate lunch. How can they say
the marriage failed? Like the people who
came back from Provence (when it was Provence)
and said it was pretty but the food was greasy.
I believe Icarus was not failing as he fell,
but just coming to the end of his triumph.

I've Done 96/132 Stupid Things

YOUR HOMEWORK IS:

You are required to answer ALL the following questions.
Tag 16 people and repost it with the title:
I've done --- out of the 132 stupid things.

99/132 means you scored a distinction for doing stupid things!

Level 1
( ) Smoked A Cigarette
( ) Smoked A Cigar
( ) Kissed A Member Of The Same Sex
(x) Drank Alcohol

SO FAR: 1

Level 2
(x) Fall In Love with non-living thing
(x) Been Dumped
( ) Shoplifted
( ) Been Fired
(x) Been In A Fist Fight

SO FAR: 4

Level 4
(x) Had A Crush On An Older Person
(x) Skipped School
( ) Slept With A Co-worker
(x) Seen Someone / Something Die

SO FAR: 7

Level 5
( ) Had / Have A Crush On One Of Your Facebook Friends
(x) Been To Paris
( ) Been To Spain
(x) Been On A Plane
(x) Thrown Up From Drinking

SO FAR: 10

Level 6
(x) Eaten Sushi
(x) Been Snowboarding/Skiing
(x) Met Someone because Of Facebook
(x) Been in a Mosh Pit

SO FAR: 14

Level 7
( ) Been In An Abusive Relationship
(x) Taken Pain Killers
(x) Love/loved Someone Who You Can't Have
(x) Laid On Your Back And Watched Cloud Shapes Go By
(x) Made A Snow Angel

SO FAR: 18

Level 8
(x) Had A Tea Party
(x) Flown A Kite
(x) Built A Sand Castle
( ) Gone mudding
(x) Played Dress Up [halloween]

SO FAR: 22

Level 9
(x) Jumped Into A Pile Of Leaves
(x) Gone Sledging
(x) Cheated While Playing A Game
(x) Been Lonely
(x) Fallen Asleep At Work / School

SO FAR: 27

Level 10
(x) Watched The Sun Set
(x) Felt An Earthquake
(x) Killed A Snake

SO FAR: 30

Level 11
(x) Been Tickled
(x) Been Robbed / Vandalized
(x) Been cheated on
(x) Been Misunderstood

SO FAR: 34

Level 12
(x) Won A Contest
( ) Been Suspended From School
(x) Had Detention
(x) Been In A Car / Motorcycle Accident

SO FAR: 37

Level 13
(x) Had / Have Braces
(x) Eaten a whole pint of ice cream in one night
(x) Danced in the moonlight

SO FAR: 40

Level 14
(x) Hated The Way You Look
(x) Witnessed A Crime
( ) Pole Danced
(x) Questioned Your Heart
(x) Been obsessed with post-it-notes

SO FAR: 44

Level 15
(x) Squished Barefoot Through The Mud
(x) Been Lost
(x) Been To The Opposite Side Of The World
(x) Swam In The Ocean
(x) Felt Like You Were Dying

SO FAR: 49

Level 16
(x) Cried Yourself To Sleep
(x) Played Cops And Robbers
(x) Recently Colored With Crayons / Colored Pencils / Markers
(x) Sang Karaoke
(x) Paid For A Meal With Only Coins

SO FAR: 54

Level 17
(x) Done Something You Told Yourself You Wouldn't
(x) Made a Prank Phone Call
(x) Laughed Until Some Kind Of Beverage Came Out Of Your Nose
(x) Kissed In The Rain

SO FAR: 58

Level 18
(x) Written A Letter To Santa Claus
(x) Watched The Sun Set/ sun rise With Someone You Care/Cared About
(x) Blown Bubbles
(x) Made A Bonfire On The Beach or anywhere

SO FAR: 62

Level 19
(x) Crashed A Party
( ) Have Traveled More Than 5 Days With A Car Full Of People
(x) Gone Rollerskating / Blading
(x) Had A Wish Come True
( ) Been Humped By A Monkey

SO FAR: 65

Level 20
( ) Worn Pearls
(x) Jumped Off A Bridge
( ) Swore at the teacher, in front of them
(x) Swam With Dolphins

SO FAR: 67

Level 22
(x) Got Your Tongue Stuck To A Pole/Freezer/ice Cube
( ) Kissed A Fish
( ) Worn The Opposite Sex's Clothes
(x) Sat On A Roof Top

SO FAR: 69

Level 23
(x) Screamed At The Top Of Your Lungs
( ) Done / Attempted A One-Handed Cartwheel
(x) Talked On The Phone For More Than 6 Hours
(x) Recently stayed Up for a while talking to someone you care about

SO FAR: 72

Level 24
(x) Picked And Ate An Apple Right Off The Tree
(x) Climbed A Tree
(x) Had/Been In A Tree House.
(x) Been scared To Watch Scary Movies Alone

SO FAR: 76

Level 25
(x) Believed In Ghosts
( ) Have had More Then 30 Pairs Of Shoes
(x) Visited Jail

SO FAR: 78

Level 26
(x) Played Chicken
(x) Been Pushed into a pool with all your clothes on
(x) Been Told You're Hot By A Complete Stranger
( ) Broken A Bone
(x) Been Easily Amused

SO FAR: 82

Level 27
(x) Caught A Fish Then Ate It Later
( ) Made A Porn Video
(x) Caught A Butterfly
(x) Laughed So Hard You Cried
(x) Cried So Hard You Laughed

SO FAR: 86

Level 28
( ) Mooned/Flashed Someone
(x) Had Someone Moon/Flash You
(x) Cheated On A Test
(x) Forgotten Someone's Name
( ) French Braided Someones Hair
(x) Gone Skinny Dipping
( ) Been Kicked Out Of Your House
( ) Tried to hurt yourself

SO FAR: 90

Level 29
(x) Rode A Roller Coaster
(x) Went Scuba-Diving/Snorkeling
( ) Had A Cavity
( ) Black-Mailed Someone
( ) Been Black Mailed

SO FAR: 92

Level 30
(x) Been Used
(x) Fell Going Up The Stairs
( ) Licked A Cat
(x) Bitten Someone
(x) Licked Someone

SO FAR: 96

Level 31
( ) Been shot at/or at gunpoint
( ) Had sex in the rain
( ) Flattened someones tires
( ) Rode your car/truck until the gas light came on
( ) Got five dollars or less worth of gas

Total: 96

a call to arms



You know, it’s not hard to see that there’s this great imbalance, and that things aren’t right.

You know, I know that? But for me I suppose, it really hits home if I stop and think about this moment, cause it is happening right now

In the same moment you have, you know, a generation who are sitting around, entertaining themselves, watching reality television, which to be honest is anything but real, while you have a child who is being prostituted behind closed doors and robbed of their innocence.

It’s not fair that we can go about consuming every single material option that comes our way while you know, the widow and orphan are stripped of life’s basic dignities because they are victims of a conflict that simply isn’t theirs.

It’s not fair that there’s a generation who are choking on their obesity while at the same time, this 30,000 children who will die today for lack of food.

It’s not fair that we have no problem going about spending 3 or 4 dollars on what is basically glorified tap water in a bottle with a fancy label while you have entire communities who suffer at the hands of disease because the only water they have access to is foul and polluted.

It’s not fair that we, you know, can sing and dance and jump around, in our freedom and in our liberty while at the same time, the slave remains captive, out of sight and out of mind.

It’s not fair that we can sit and watch the evening news from the comfort of our living rooms and pity those who lived where the storm hit, or where the ground shook, or where the water rose, and simply feel sorry for them, and then change the channel and get on with supper.

Is it fair to walk past the homeless man and give him nothing in the assumption that he’ll spend it on booze or cigarettes or what you suggest, that he should go out and get a job?

I mean, who are we judge the alcoholic or the prostitute or the addict or the criminal as if we are any better? Who are we to forget the downtrodden or the oppressed or the marginalized while we go about chasing the dream?

We see this imbalance and we go, man, that’s not right, that’s not fair. But a little too often, that’s all we do, because for us to do anything more is actually going to cost us something.

And if that’s where it ends, perhaps then it’s fair to say that, when we ignore the prostituted child, that we actually lend our hand to their abuse, that when we ignore the widow and the orphan in their distress that we actually add to their pain, when we ignore the slave that remains captive, that it’s us who are entrapping them, that when we forget the refugee, that it’s us who are displacing them. That when we choose not to help the poor and the needy, that we actually rob them.

Perhaps the only fair thing to say is that when we forsake the lives of others, we actually forsake our own.

last week of finals

More Than Fine
Switchfoot


When I wake in the morning
I want to blow into pieces
I want more than just OK, more than just OK
When I'm up with the sunrise
I want more than just the blue skies
I want more than just OK, more than just OK

I'm not givin' up, givin' up, not givin' up now
I'm not givin' up, givin' up, not backing down

More than fine, more than bent on getting by
More than fine, more than just OK

When I'm lit with the sunshine
I want more than just a good time
I want more than just OK, more than just OK. OK

I'm not givin' up, givin' up, not givin' up now
I'm not givin' up, givin' up, I'm not selling out

More than oceans away from the dawn
More than oceans away from who we are
More than oceans, more than oceans, yeah

More than bent on getting by
More than fine, more than just OK.

OK.

Farewell to Singapore

in exactly twelve hours, a 200,000kg pile of metal will have decided to spurn gravity for the clouds, and I will be ensconced within. inside that cramped pocket of pressurized air, I will have accepted the future and its inevitability, but right now in this room of packed luggage and empty closets, I can pilot my marshmallow bed through the fog of memories with gravity and in solitude.

I would like to believe that over time, I have become better at coping with farewells. in my navy-blue childhood, I remember hearing that the best way to remove the sting of a farewell was to preemptively devalue the relationship. you lose what you have, so would it not be for the best to have less to lose?

the plan made sense to me at the time, but I never had a sufficient amount of angst to actually carry out such self-destruction. looking back, I am thankful that I have done the very reverse: doing my very best in maintaining the friendships that might have had rusted down over the years and miles.

my farewells these days are very different from the ones I had in my youth. my smile glosses over the regrets, the camera flashes white-out the nostalgia, and somehow, I almost always have a good time, even when we all know that things can and will never be the same again. over the years, I may have sometimes questioned myself on whether I belong, but I have always known that I will miss this land one day. with the emotions that my impending departure has brought up within me, I now know for sure that I have grown to love the country that has etched herself into my heart: the sights, sounds, smells, tastes and sensations that form my memories and most of all, the friendships that fill these static images with the inner glow of warmth and camaraderie.

goodbye guys! it's only when we say goodbye that we have the chance to say hello again, and I'm sure that as friends, we will definitely do our best to meet and say hello, again and again over the years ahead. it's been one heck of a ride :)

“Nothing makes the earth seem so spacious as to have friends at a distance; they make the latitudes and longitudes.” - Henry David Thoreau

the Time of Departure

a quick shout-out to those who want to send me off: my flight SQ002 takes off from Terminal 3 at 5.50pm tomorrow, so I'll be checking-in at 4pm and will enter the departure lounge at 5pm.

see you there! :)

"Why can't we get all the people together in the world that we really like and then just stay together? I guess that wouldn't work. Someone would leave. Someone always leaves. Then we would have to say good-bye. I hate good-byes. I know what I need. I need more hellos." ~Charles M. Schulz